Yup you read that right! Mama is touched out. Did you know that’s a real thing especially for moms? I had no idea and thought it was just me, but so many moms experience it. After nursing Simeon all day, and the big kids being super close, at the end of the day I’m “touched out” also known as I don’t want to be touched so leave me alone.
Some days are worse then others, especially those rainy or cold days when my kids can’t go outside to play. I swear from the second they get up until they go to bed someone is always touching me. Majority of the time I’m nursing, but doing the dishes I usually have a kid running between my legs, folding laundry there’s usually someone sitting pretty much on top of me, or even when I’m just trying to drink my delicious cup of coffee.
I saw a trailer for a movie called Tully, and after I got done crying with how much I relate to that mom, I had to laugh at one part. The movie is about a new mom who is exhausted so they get a night nurse to help her out. At one part the mom says “ I hold a baby all day and then night time comes and I’m supposed to switch gears and be like oh hello I’m all sexy now.”
I feel like sometimes that is expected of moms that once the kids are in bed we are supposed to switch gears but, for those of us touched out that’s hard! My poor husband just wants to cuddle on the couch or hold my hand but I don’t want any of it. I feel so bad but he understands that these first 3 months of having a newborn (the fourth trimester) are hard in many different ways.
I know personally I need to somehow find a balance. Like maybe when the big kids go for quiet time and I finish feeding Simeon I can try harder to put him down to sleep so I can get an hour alone. Maybe that one hour would make a difference who knows but it’s worth a shot.
Any other moms experience being “touched out?” What do you do to help? Tips and tricks welcome as I write this with a two year old sitting in my legs.